The Male stereotype thinks in terms of HOW. The MTS
likes to solve the situation so she/he can drop the pressure and get back to
relaxation / nothing mode. When we are in MTS, mode it is wise to
remember that someone else may be more interested in a deeper
understanding of the scenario before fixing it.
Offer empathy. E.g It sounds like you would feel better if we spent more
time understanding “Why” this situation happened and “WHO” else is
involved?
If you get a yes, ask, would you be willing to hear my perspective?
If you get a yes, respond by: sharing your feelings e.g. :My stress level with this hanging in the air is pretty high. Your Desire e.g.: if this situation continues any longer, more people could be affected. In respect of my, and the well -being of others,
Request e.g. : Would you be willing to discuss the why and how after we fix it?
Tend to fluctuate randomly between MTS and FTS styles more often. Here is where centered Intuition comes in handy which will supersede any confusion of what is the best approach HOW? Take a breath, Center your self and let the moment show you what approach is best in this specific situation.
Female Thinkers, or when behaving in Female Thinking Mode: The Female stereotype thinks in terms of WHY and WHO. The FTS likes to understand the situation so she/he can feel more
grounded by understanding the details of why the scenario happened and
the personalities of WHO were involved.
The stabilizing affect of understanding WHY and WHO assists stress relief
through grounding and personal connection.
When we are in FTS, mode it is best to remember that someone else may
be more interested in fixing and being free of it before getting deeper
understanding of the scenario and the players involved.
Offer empathy. E.g It sounds like you would feel better if we spent our time
fixing this possibly dangerous scenario before getting to the “Why” thissituation happened and “WHO” else is involved?
If you get a yes, ask, would you be willing to hear my perspective?
If you get a yes, respond by:
Sharing Your Feelings e.g. : My frustration over why this happened and
who is responsible is pretty intense.
Your Desire e.g.: if this situation continues, I agree more people could be affected and I’m wondering if we can both consider that we have at least another 15 minutes before any further problems arise, and spending a little more time on finding out why this problem came up and who is behind it would allow us to resolve the issue at the source.
Request e.g. : Would you be willing to discuss this for another 15 minutes to get a little more insight on the why and how before we fix it?
